Congratulations on your upcoming session! I’ve assembled a little helpful information for you to get the most out of this life-changing experience.

You’re getting ready for session with a professional Dominatrix, and you want to make sure that it goes off without a hitch. That’s understandable! But if you’re not prepared, you could wind up with a less than stellar experience or even damaging your relationship with your professional in the process.

I’ll share my advice on preparing for a session with me, but these tips can be applied to any experience with a BDSM professional.

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You received a confirmation email with all the necessary details. Make sure you don’t delete this email, and make sure you put your appointment on the calendar so you don’t forget!

My schedule books up quite far in advance and if you have to reschedule, it could be a month or more before you get back in. It’s also incredibly disrespectful to me, because my time is limited and I’ve carved this space in my schedule for both of us. W

hen you reschedule within a week of your appointment, I don’t take last-minute sessions to replace them.

I am running multiple sites, a non-profit, shooting content, and managing my fanclubs and I only allot so much time to in-person sessions.  So treat this experience like the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity it is. Follow the arrival instructions carefully. Don’t arrive too early and if you’re going to be late, make sure you let me know as soon as possible.

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Make sure you get enough sleep before your session and eat something healthy prior. I’ve had so many clients who don’t eat before their sessions and end up shaky, light-headed, or worse.

Make sure to drink plenty of water before you arrive at the dungeon as well to stay hydrated throughout your time there! If you have an extended appointment, feel free to bring your own drinks and snacks as well. If you take medications, make sure you’ve taken them that morning. You might be nervous, but forgetting something your body needs is a sure way to ruin the experience.

This should go without saying, but arrive sober. You may feel like having a drink to calm your nerves, but it can actually have a very negative effect on the scene. Alcohol in your system increases the risk of lasting marks or reactions to certain play, and being impaired means that I can’t fully tell what you’re consenting to. If I feel that you cannot consent fully, I won’t play with you. End of story.

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Shower and clean your body with a gentle soap and moisturize your skin. Dry skin is flaky and unsightly, and it can leave you at risk for broken skin or marks from certain kinds of play. Exfoliate, it’s good for you!

Don’t wear heavy cologne, my nose is quite sensitive. Do use mouthwash though!

Avoid using lots of hair products, because I enjoy running my fingers through your hair. If you want to shave, now’s the time to do it! You can also trim any hair that might get in the way (for example, if there is some pubic hair that could get caught on clamps).

My preference is for closely trimmed or fully shaved public hair.

If you’re requesting anal play, administer an enema the night before AND the day of for best results. Use the infographics below to educate yourself on enemas.

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Come dressed nicely, but not to draw attention to yourself. Business casual is always a safe bet. If you have special outfits or clothes to wear for your session, bring them with you. Don’t wear them to your appointment. (Except panties, you can wear those.)

Bring gifts or thoughtful gestures to show appreciation for me. You can peruse my website for ideas. Some good things to bring include craft sodas, chocolates (in a nice box), live plants such as orchids, sour candy, luxury candles (please no cheap candles), toys/gear such as whips, restraints, etc– especially ones from my wishlist.

If there’s something specific you’d like me to use on you, bringing it with you is always a good way to have it included in your scene. You can also bring donations to the dungeon, but make sure you put these in a separate envelope.

My studio is now a non-profit 501c3, so all your donations are tax-deductible!

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It’s essential to be open and honest with me. I am here to help create amazing experiences, not judge or criticize you. If I don’t understand what your fantasies entail, I cannot provide the best experience possible. Keep in mind that I may not offer everything you’re seeking, but I can work around most ideas and concepts.

Bring your ideas to me, especially. I don’t have a “one size fits all” kind of session. Each one is unique and built from the compatibility we create, so your ideas are always welcome. I may or may not use them, but they’re always beneficial for helping to prime my creative process.

If this is your first session, or you’re requesting another interview because you haven’t been back in a while, we will sit down and have a candid conversation about your experiences, your limits, things you’re looking to explore, and the ideas you have. This will be casual and relaxed, not part of your session time. This allows for me to read you openly and honestly.

Being open to new experiences is the most important thing you can do when preparing for your BDSM session. It’s also the hardest, because it requires you to let go of any preconceived notions or expectations and surrender yourself to the experience.

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A lot of people are afraid to be themselves in the bedroom, but this doesn’t work for BDSM. If you’re not being honest with yourself about what you want and need, then it’s unlikely that your session will go well. If you have a fantasy of being a “slave” but really don’t understand what that means, then it’s best to just be yourself and allow the session to evolve organically.

This also includes asking for extreme activities that you don’t have any experience with. I’m going to go slowly and increase the intensity over time, because I’m not going to risk injuring you physically or mentally.

I don’t have any expectations from you other than being polite, honest, and respectful. I work with everyone across the power and gender spectrum and I value authenticity above all else.

This also goes for being “stoic” in your session. I love my pets to be expressive, vocal, and reactionary to the things I’m doing to them. Don’t just sit there and take it. That toxic masculinity crap doesn’t work around here.

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Preparing your mindset is an important step in preparing for a BDSM session. It’s not just about being physically ready, but also mentally and emotionally prepared. The best way to do this is by taking some time before your session to think about what you want out of it. Write it out if that helps, bring it with you if you think you’ll forget something.

It’s also crucial that you come in with an open mind. Don’t try to micromanage the experience, or want to know all the little details before they happen. I don’t even know what those are, because each session is different. Play should be organic and exploratory. Let me take the lead and guide you through.

If you’re coming in with the expectation of a specific thing, be realistic that your body may not cooperate. It happens! Your fantasy may be to take a 10′ dildo or be teased for hours on end, but that may not be realistic. A specific activity or scene may not occur because of time, equipment, how each our bodies feel, energy levels, or any number of things, and that needs to be ok. If you cling to a very specific outcome, you’ll miss all the wonderful connections and experiences you could be having along the way.

The same goes for orgasms. If you arrive with an expectation to cum, you’ll find I likely won’t let you. Orgasms are a privilege, not a right, and I feel that men already have an unhealthy obsession with them that gets in the way of experiencing truly incredible scenes. You might cum, you might not. But if you come in with a positive attitude

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I’m a human being, not a fetish fantasy dispenser. I’m very very good at what I do, but I have bad days, tired days, aches and pains, and stresses just like you do. I may not be able to do a certain activity or be in the headspace for certain kinds of scenes all the time. I will always strive to create experiences that are fulfilling for both of us, but that requires a willingness to be open to whatever happens that day.

The best way to make sure I’m in a good mood and feel excited to play with you is to be enthusiastic, positive, and not demanding. If I feel that you are truly excited with whatever I may cook up that day, I’m more likely to go the extra mile to make it extraordinary. If you come in with demands and expectations, topping from the bottom, or petulant behavior, you’ll not get the experience you crave from me.

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If you are new to BDSM, it’s important to remember that there’s no such thing as a stupid question. If you’re not sure what something means or if it sounds like something that would be enjoyable for you, ask! Just make sure that you’re keeping your pre-session communication to a minimum unless you’re compensating me for my time.

I don’t have the time or energy for long emails or phone sessions prior to appointments, these things are best discussed during your interview. If you have logistical questions before your session, you can always ask those.

If you have specific needs that need addressing before we begin your session (for example: “I want more pain than usual today”), don’t hesitate–tell me about them! The more information I have about your desires and limits, the better equipped I am at fulfilling them. You should also feel free to tell me if something isn’t working for either one of us, things that are going well, or places you want to explore.

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It is important to be comfortable with yourself before you begin. If you’re struggling with something, let me know. If a particular activity does not feel right for your body or mind, tell me so I can help guide you through it in a way that works for both of us.

My particular style of domination includes a fair amount of psychological play, and this can open up areas in you that you’re scared to address. That’s ok. Let me in. I am here to help you become the best version of yourself.

I enjoy the process of getting inside your head, and that requires you to open up to me and give me access to all the deep, dark corners of your psyche. This is where all the best play comes from, because I’m able to utilize the little gems of your mind to create scenes and situations.

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Take some time to process your experience. Journal about it if you like, send me an email with your thoughts and feelings. I always enjoy reading your feedback and incorporating it into the next scene. It’s also incredibly validating for me to read about how this experience has affected you.

Take some time to allow these feelings to coalesce, so don’t worry about emailing me right away.

Take care of your body. Rest, hydrate, stretch. Some people experience “sub drop” after a session, which can result in lethargy or depression, which is normal after the high level of endorphins you’ve experienced. Take care of yourself in this time and know that it will pass. It often helps to schedule the next appointment or plan for a future experience so it gives you something to look forward to.

Lastly..

Don’t worry about getting it right the first time or ANY time, this isn’t about you being perfect. I don’t expect you to be the perfect submissive, I just want you to come away from each experience a little better than you arrived. Relax and surrender to the unknown. It’ll be worth it, I promise.

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I am the subject of a documentary that was released today to over two dozen streaming services: “A Wicked Eden.”

A WICKED EDEN is a look at the inner workings of the Femdom fetish world, focusing on Goddess Alexandra Snow as she trains new talent, Raevyn Rose, in the way and secrets of how to run a business based on kink successfully. This 96-minute documentary promises to be funny, smart, sexy, and a little bit wicked.

I’ll be honest with you: this is one of the scariest things I’ve ever done in my life.

That’s because this documentary is about sex work, specifically the world of FemDom and fetish content creators and, well, a whole lot about my life that I’ve never shared in any public forum.

I am a sex worker. I have been for nearly two decades, and I am damn proud of what I do.

But I said yes because this is something I believe in: the voices of sex workers need to be heard. We are real people with real jobs, because sex work is real work. We desperately need to break down stigma and marginalization, and the only way we progress is by allowing people to see us as real people.

I said yes, because we need to talk more about sex, kink, and BDSM — and we need to talk about them honestly. Shame is toxic. Shame around sexuality and sexual expression causes so much harm to intimacy, autonomy, and self-worth. I’ve spent nearly two decades helping people explore their sexualities, work through traumas, and experience a reprieve from shame.

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This documentary explores the complex world of femdom and fetish content creators, especially building a successful business in one of the most hostile sociopolitical landscapes. It includes dealing with fans and clients, gaining skills that no school can teach, navigating relationships, and ,most importantly– the uniqueness and solidarity of the community we’ve built. There are many interviews with my friends and colleagues, with sex therapists and fans and submissives. It’s incredibly sexy and funny, and uplifting.

And.. there’s a lot about my personal life in there. Truthfully, that was the hardest part.

When the project first started, I had carefully crafted answers for the interview questions, the same answers I’d given a dozen times to magazines and podcasts. How did I get started? What is it like to be worshipped by these men? What is dating like for me? What’s the weirdest thing I’ve ever been asked to do? (It’s still a video on having swallowed alien eggs from a gas station egg salad sandwich if you must know.)

There was a point in the interviews when the wall I’d built between my work persona and my authentic self began to break down. I stopped giving the rehearsed sound bites and started to open up. I began to realize that the only way for people to connect with me and people like me was to be vulnerable, honest, and raw. Vulnerability is challenging for most people, but it’s especially tough when you’ve spent 17 years as a Dominatrix. Not only does the media love to portray us as being broken little girls with Daddy issues, but they also love to paint BDSM as the result of trauma and abuse. The reality is that humans are complex creatures, and none of us get through life unscathed, so pretending otherwise was a life I didn’t want to lead anymore.

Or maybe it’s all the words of Brene Brown echoing in my head. Who knows?

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As a professional dominatrix and fetish porn producer, I’ve often been asked to share my story. I’ve been approached by other documentary companies, TV networks, and even reality TV shows. There are several reasons why I have often refused the opportunity.

The biggest reason is that documentaries about sex workers are seldom made with our voices. They are always made through a lens of sensationalism or pity, such as the 2015 Netflix Documentary Hot Girls Wanted. It never shows us with any agency, only as helpless victims waiting to be saved.

But when Naddine Madell, a Candian filmmaker, approached me about this project, I saw that she already had a portfolio of other work that championed female empowerment. So I took a leap with one condition: I would agree to do the film, but only if I had veto power over absolutely any scene, to ensure that our stories retained the right narrative I also refused to sign any of the legal documents until the rough cut was finished, to make damn sure I didn’t end up like the women interviewed by Louis Theroux.

She agreed.

What transpired next was 3 ½ whirlwind years of filming and gaining some of the most beautiful friendships with the production crew and with Naddine herself. She kept her word at every step and demonstrated incredible ethics and honesty throughout the process. I remain in awe of how each of these people has stood up for us and continue to fight for our voices.

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Sex workers are stigmatized, criminalized, and marginalized to the point where they cannot be seen as experts on their own experiences.

But sex workers are leaders in the fight for sexual freedom. We are the shock troops of feminism, demanding that our voices be heard and our rights respected.

Sex workers have long been considered either victims or criminals, and modern media likes to turn us into circus animals for their amusement. They portray us as something to be pitied or saved, or as degenerates who do not belong with the rest of polite society.

The reality is the majority of sex workers, whether online or in-person, are people who have chosen their profession because they find it lucrative, fulfilling, and rewarding. Many of us are college-educated, run successful businesses, maintain happy relationships with our friends and family, pay our taxes, and are upstanding citizens. We are normal people, like you. (Ok maybe normal is a stretch!)

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Do things like abuse and exploitation happen in the adult industry? Of course, it does. But it doesn’t happen at any higher rates than any other industry. In fact, more exploitation happens in the hospitality industry than anywhere else. As someone who was exploited early in my career by my ex-husband, this stuff happens because society does not empower sex workers with agency and autonomy. In the years after escaping my own hell, I sought to change that by being the person I wish I had when I first began.

I want to show the world that sex workers come from all walks of life — there isn’t just one type of person involved in this industry any more than there is one type of client or fan who seeks our services and content.

I wanted to follow in the footsteps of Carol Leigh, who coined the term sex work, and who spent their life fighting for us.

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The process of being filmed by a documentary crew can be grueling, even for someone like me who is quite used to being on camera. Hours upon hours of set up for one interview, numerous locations, 2 countries, and 6 different trips. They filmed hundreds of hours of footage to get the tiny little snippets you see in the film.

It felt like every last inch of my life was on film for those trips, and in some of the interviews, I was sick with the flu or so exhausted I couldn’t string words together. We did some cities back to back, with long flights and multiple road trips. It was a great deal of trust to place my story in the hands of these people, but they handled it with beauty and care.

At the time filming had begun, I had recently hired Daddy Des, and the experience of each trip definitely solidified our dynamic partnership even if it often felt like a trial by fire.

The crew told me they had never become friends with any of the subjects of projects they’d worked on previously, to which I still can’t imagine it any other way.

Kara, Alex, Roxy, and Naddine — thank you for everything.

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One of the most valuable aspects of this film outside of sex work is its compassionate portrayal of kink and BDSM. There’s still so much shame surrounding sexuality, especially for those who identify with submissive desires. The interviews helped to normalize this and show that these are all healthy aspects of sexuality when conducted in a healthy way.

Dominance and submission are symbiotic relationships that hinge on consent, trust, and connection, and for men who are able to joyfully embrace their submissive fantasies, it can be an antidote to toxic masculinity. In fact, it is by upholding powerful femininity, such as the glorious world of femdom shown in this documentary, that we can truly break down the stranglehold toxic masculinity has on men.

I was especially proud of Mo in the documentary because he bravely chose to honor himself with his interviews. Whether he knows it or not, Mo is the hero that more men need and has my unfettered respect.

My protege in the film, Ryan (formerly Raevyn), remains one of the most powerful voices for sexual liberation and she continues to inspire me to embrace my own sexual evolution every single day. The relationship that we built over the course of the documentary remains strong to this day and I’m grateful for her presence in my life.

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I hope that my participation in this documentary helps other people to live their truth. I hope that it gives the mainstream public a different perspective on sex work, and inspires others to embrace their sexual desires.

I hope this sheds some light on how challenging it is to build and maintain a successful business in the adult industry, and how every single person you’ve ever fapped to on the internet deserves your respect– and your money.

(Side note: pay for your porn, people. There’s nothing sexy about jerking off to someone’s stolen work.)

If you’ve watched the documentary and want to be part of the magic of building my new space, we can use all the help we can get. Donate to the New Wicked Eden.

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This meant that my IWantClips store went from over 2400 clips to 50, and last I checked, wasn’t yet back to above 200. My Clips4Sale store had no new updates for over 2 weeks, and I had to delete and re-upload all new clips and hope they passed this new compliance in time to keep my Top 50 traffic. As a top 50 clip store for over 8 years, I rely on the sales from these sites to keep the lights on and my cats fed.

Needless to say, there has been much chaos and uncertainty about how this will play out in the coming months.. just like the OnlyFans chaos just a few months before.[/vc_column_text][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8431″ img_size=”550×309″ add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_rounded” css=”.vc_custom_1635280756761{border-radius: 1px !important;}”][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8423″ img_size=”550×309″ add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_rounded” css=”.vc_custom_1635280798806{border-radius: 1px !important;}”][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_column_text]These are just two of my more recent videos that will be “flagged” by clip site compliance AI as a result of these changes — the left because it looks like multiple people in the video, and the second because the AI confuses the middle finger or “L” for loser as a weapon.[/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space height=”12px”][vc_row_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8461″ img_size=”large” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_rounded” onclick=”link_image” css=”.vc_custom_1635288027152{border-radius: 1px !important;}”][/vc_column_inner][vc_column_inner width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8460″ img_size=”large” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_rounded” onclick=”link_image” css=”.vc_custom_1635288034485{border-radius: 1px !important;}”][/vc_column_inner][/vc_row_inner][vc_single_image image=”8462″ img_size=”full” alignment=”center”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”2/3″][vc_custom_heading text=”My clip stores (such as IWC) may have a limited number of clips for some time, and new clips may be heavily delayed on sites like C4S. The good news is, though, that GoddessSnow.com remains unaffected and you can buy ALL of my clips the same day they’re released on my VOD Store.” font_container=”tag:p|font_size:18px|text_align:center|color:%2381acd1″ google_fonts=”font_family:Raleway%3A100%2C200%2C300%2Cregular%2C500%2C600%2C700%2C800%2C900|font_style:300%20light%20regular%3A300%3Anormal” css=”.vc_custom_1635289578914{padding-top: 20px !important;padding-bottom: 32px !important;}”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/3″][vc_empty_space height=”10px”][ucaddon_uc_slide_down_button text=”Buy directly here!” link=”http://www.goddesssnow.com/vod” uc_fonts_data=”JTdCJTdE”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_separator style=”double”][vc_custom_heading text=”Ok, what the hell happened? How did we get here?” font_container=”tag:p|font_size:28px|text_align:center|color:%2381acd1″ google_fonts=”font_family:Rancho%3Aregular|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” css=”.vc_custom_1635280990312{padding-top: 32px !important;padding-bottom: 32px !important;}”][vc_column_text]The new policy changes come after Mastercard, Visa and Discover in December said they would no longer allow their cards to be used on Pornhub after a review of the website uncovered unlawful content. This was following claims about sex trafficking on the platform from an opinion piece in The New York Times.

The supposed originating issue for these changes is something that EVERYONE in the industry wants to address: non-consensual content and underage content. This stemmed from the abuses of Pornhub and other tube sites, which previously did not require any type of verification to upload content and had been fairly controversial, meaning that anti-porn groups had something to sink their teeth into last December. (It doesn’t matter, of course, that sites like Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat have record numbers of abuses but aren’t held to the same scrutiny as adult sites. Facebook alone had 20 million instances of child sex abuse in 2020!) 

However.. the latest changes are difficult, if not impossible, to comply with. The new changes require not only an additional ID verification and performer verification system (one that we already do when we sign up for a site, and are required by law to maintain our own records under 2257), but also MANUAL REVIEW of the content across these sites.

As the ACLU’s amazing article here states: “To take one example, a site like OnlyFans has one million content creators. If each of them uploaded one video in a given day, under Mastercard’s policy, OnlyFans would have to review each video before it’s published to determine whether it complies. Pre-publication review at that scale is almost impossible, and would likely be rife with errors considering the speed at which online platforms operate. This policy will make it much harder for platforms to host adult content, which will destabilize the websites that sex workers use to make a living. Additionally, this policy is not targeted to address Mastercard’s stated concerns. The policy applies only to a small fraction of web sites – those that host adult content – but all available evidence indicates these problems proliferate across all kinds of websites.”[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][fwp_borano_title title=”Discrimination against sex workers” link=”” tag=”h4″ title_pos=”text-center” absolute_center=”0″ separator=”1″ separator_pos=”separator” separator_m_top=”mt20″ separator_m_bottom=”mb20″ title_color=”” extra_class=””][vc_column_text]Banks have historically discriminated against the adult industry, from platforms to individual sex workers. Many payment processors, such as PayPal, refuse to do business with sex workers altogether, as they’re considered too “high risk” to take on as customers. This also extends to sex worker’s and their bank accounts, loans (including the PPP loan during the pandemic), payment platforms, and more.  There are no specific regulations against this, which leaves it in the hands of financial institutions to wholesale discriminate against us.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”I have personally been discriminated against by financial institutions more times than I can count. I’ve been denied for loans or had to use various layers of obfuscation to qualify for them (now you might understand why it’s taking so long to buy a new dungeon building..). I’ve had bank accounts terminated for no reason and without cause. I’ve lost accounts with PayPal, Venmo, GooglePay, etc dozens of times without ever using these sites to receive money from clients or fans.” font_container=”tag:p|font_size:20px|text_align:center|color:%2381acd1″ google_fonts=”font_family:Raleway%3A100%2C200%2C300%2Cregular%2C500%2C600%2C700%2C800%2C900|font_style:300%20light%20regular%3A300%3Anormal” css=”.vc_custom_1635283617707{padding-top: 20px !important;padding-bottom: 32px !important;}”][vc_column_text]The challenge is where that leaves sex-related businesses, or more vulnerable independent sex workers who face further risks by not having access to banking. Aside from the constant fear about having an account shut, it can also affect their ability to collect benefits, prove income when renting a home, and even pay the right taxes. Read more about why banks shun workers in the adult industry at the Guardian.

“Banks are required to file suspicious activity reports, or SARs, when they suspect something is wrong with the money coming in — wire transfers that aren’t accounted for, money moving to and from countries where it doesn’t make sense to do so, and anything that might look like money laundering.

In one of such SARs, banking major Wells Fargo had stated: “Based on the inexplicable nature of the outgoing wires, for which the original sources of funding were not known, but appeared likely to be income from the customers’ adult entertainment business, the information found regarding the customers’ business, and the illicit nature of those businesses, which are international and may be operating in areas where underage children and other vulnerable individuals might be forced to provide services, AMLI [Anti-Money Laundering Initiative] has deemed the specified outgoing wire transfer activity suspicious.” It is this mention of minors that is also common in Mastercard and Visa’s explanation banning Pornhub. There are, of course, many types of criminality and abuse that happen in and around the adult industry, but this is just not limited to this one industry. Children as young as six work in dangerous mines in order to extract the minerals that power our smartphones. As of last year, consumer goods from Apple, Microsoft, BMW, Gap, Huawei, Nike, Samsung, Sony, and others are being manufactured by re-education camp prisoners in China, according to an in-depth report by an Australian think tank.”[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”But sure, WE are the greatest evil…” font_container=”tag:p|font_size:28px|text_align:center|color:%2381acd1″ google_fonts=”font_family:Rancho%3Aregular|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” css=”.vc_custom_1635286715814{padding-top: 32px !important;padding-bottom: 32px !important;}”][vc_empty_space][vc_empty_space][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_separator border_width=”2″ el_width=”60″][vc_empty_space][fwp_borano_title title=”What’s Happening Now” link=”” tag=”h4″ title_pos=”text-center” absolute_center=”0″ separator=”1″ separator_pos=”separator” separator_m_top=”mt20″ separator_m_bottom=”mb20″ title_color=”” extra_class=””][vc_empty_space][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8449″ img_size=”large” add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_rounded” css=”.vc_custom_1635285998828{border-radius: 1px !important;}”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_column_text]The list of banned topics and content types that we’ve been issued grows every year, and now that list has grown once more. It includes such things as:

Vampire
Hypnosis
Forced/Forcing
Pee/Golden Showers
Abductions
Blackmail
Incest Roleplay
Choking/Breathplay
4 limbs bound with penetration, even pegging
Age Play
Diapers

(for the full list and which sites, go here: Sophie Ladder’s Restriction Spreadsheet)

Videos will continue to be picked apart in compliance, and the AI systems that sites are using may falsely categorize a video as non-compliant. We will see a pretty strong sanitation of fetish videos across all the sites, which means that many of your favorite fetishes may disappear overnight.

(Don’t worry though, my members site remains unaffected– you can enjoy ALL of my clips there.)[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][ucaddon_uc_slide_down_button text=”Buy directly here!” link=”http://www.goddesssnow.com/vod” uc_fonts_data=”JTdCJTdE”][vc_empty_space][vc_separator border_width=”2″ el_width=”60″][vc_empty_space][fwp_borano_title title=”What you can do” link=”” tag=”h4″ title_pos=”text-center” absolute_center=”0″ separator=”1″ separator_pos=”separator” separator_m_top=”mt20″ separator_m_bottom=”mb20″ title_color=”” extra_class=””][vc_empty_space][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_column_text]First: learn what’s happening and get well versed on the war on porn. This ACLU article is a great place to start:

How Mastercard’s New Policy Violates Sex Workers Rights

Tweet @Mastercard to end this policy and protect sex workers’ rights. Tell them that they must sit down with sex workers and develop solutions that create stability and reduce harm for us.

Defend us with your money, which is what these companies are most concerned about. Use other cards, such as American Express or Discover. Be aware of the institutions that discriminate most, such as Chase.

Purchase your content directly where you can. Be understanding that it’s not the sites making these rules and it’s not our choice, we are reliant on these platforms.

Send tributes to ease the massive hit we’re experiencing in revenue.

Commission custom videos, especially if your favorite clips don’t exist on these sites.

Book in-person sessions, the best way to explore fantasies without interference from religious groups.

Help engagement on social media of your favorite creators, like me and the Wicked Collective, to gain more visibility of the content we can sell.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8450″ img_size=”large” add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_rounded” css=”.vc_custom_1635289441508{border-radius: 1px !important;}”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][vc_separator border_width=”2″ el_width=”20″][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_custom_heading text=”Just keep supporting independent sex workers and being understanding about what we can and can’t do on these sites. Show compassion in light of financial discrimination and seek to break it down where you can. Our worlds don’t operate the same as yours, and we work very hard to create the content you love and also create balanced, healthy lives for ourselves.” font_container=”tag:p|font_size:20px|text_align:center|color:%2381acd1″ google_fonts=”font_family:Raleway%3A100%2C200%2C300%2Cregular%2C500%2C600%2C700%2C800%2C900|font_style:300%20light%20regular%3A300%3Anormal” css=”.vc_custom_1635287037937{padding-top: 20px !important;padding-bottom: 32px !important;}”][vc_column_text]It’s been an immensely stressful year for the adult industry, between this and OnlyFans and the constantly shifting landscape.  I’m one of the most stress-tolerant people I know in the industry and even I’m feeling the weight of needing to adapt and pivot to a whole new chaos that threatens to demolish my business every single day. Performers and creators are leaving the industry in droves from burn out and I’ve had to cut back on my own online workload as not to run the risk of burn out too.

I have no intention of leaving though, don’t worry. I love what I do and we will, as always, find ways to overcome whatever they throw at us. In the meantime, though.. book an in-person session with me in Columbus, OH and let’s roleplay you as a Mastercard Exec so I can get some frustrations out.[/vc_column_text][vc_single_image image=”8178″ img_size=”full” alignment=”right”][vc_separator border_width=”2″ el_width=”20″][vc_empty_space][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][/vc_column][/vc_row]

However.. although the barrier to entry has changed, the search for connection remains the same. You may have found yourself here the same way: a story, a movie, or a video. You may have ventured down a rabbit hole on a porn site and found that your desires called for more than blowjobs and threesomes. You ached for that experience, to be at the receiving end of the crop, to know the bliss of surrender to a woman whose demands seem never-ending.[/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space height=”12px”][vc_custom_heading text=”But.. how do you actually live those fantasies?
How do you go from timid voyeur to enthusiastic player?” font_container=”tag:p|font_size:28px|text_align:center|color:%2381acd1″ google_fonts=”font_family:Rancho%3Aregular|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” css=”.vc_custom_1615919844020{padding-top: 32px !important;padding-bottom: 32px !important;}”][vc_column_text]Ah, therein lies the rub. For all the onslaught of exposure to FemDom in the world of the internet, it can still be challenging to find the right person(s) to explore it with. So, here’s my concise advice to transition from bystander to connoisseur. So before you message me, or any other Domme…[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][vc_column][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][fwp_borano_title title=”#1: Educate Yourself” link=”” tag=”h4″ title_pos=”text-center” absolute_center=”0″ separator=”1″ separator_pos=”separator” separator_m_top=”mt20″ separator_m_bottom=”mb20″ title_color=”” extra_class=””][vc_column_text]Research and learn.. and I don’t mean by watching more porn, either. The best thing you can do is to learn more about the fetishes you’re interested in before you request them from someone like me, because you need to be speaking the same language. Your definition of “humiliation” may be very different than mine if you’ve only ever thought about jerking off while wearing women’s panties. The internet is full of info and it only takes a few short clicks to find it.

Then, you should educate yourself about the person you’re looking to connect with. I know I have tons of photos and that I’m very beautiful, but that isn’t a basis for chemistry. Read, read, read. Make sure you’re on the same page with the available info on my website and you feel a sense that you would mesh on more than just a BDSM interests perspective, because that’s also crucial to the connection piece.

Keep in mind that although we may look like your fantasy archetype, we are real people who have a wide variety of personalities and styles and skills and interests. Focus more on seeing if your personalities mesh and you have shared passions, but leave room for us to be real people too.

I guarantee that you will have VASTLY superior experiences this way, because it allows for real human connection. Nothing makes play hotter than that.

[/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8248″ img_size=”large” add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_rounded” css=”.vc_custom_1615920541606{border-radius: 1px !important;}”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][fwp_borano_title title=”#1: Know Thyself” link=”” tag=”h4″ title_pos=”text-center” absolute_center=”0″ separator=”1″ separator_pos=”separator” separator_m_top=”mt20″ separator_m_bottom=”mb20″ title_color=”” extra_class=””][vc_column_text]It’s easy to watch a video and get a twitch in the groin and think– this is what I want. But videos are not always an accurate representation of real-life play. They are encapsulated fantasies that are often the most extreme variants, and when you’re just getting started, it’s better to start slow. You might think that you want to be ballbusted, but in reality, you want the experience of being vulnerable in a situation and when it comes to actually getting nailed, it’s more than you can handle.

Instead, make a list of the activities that interest you and ask yourself what specifically about these things is intriguing. Really dig into the specifics, examine how your fantasies intersect, and then imagine a realistic scenario where you could begin to explore them. It helps to make a list when you’re not in a highly charged sexual state so you can look at things objectively. Put aside your fear and shame about your desires too. It may help to think of activities and scenarios like ingredients in making a meal. There are many variations of onions, and many different ways to prepare them, right?[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/2″][fwp_borano_title title=”#3: Learn the Ettiquette” link=”” tag=”h4″ title_pos=”text-center” absolute_center=”0″ separator=”1″ separator_pos=”separator” separator_m_top=”mt20″ separator_m_bottom=”mb20″ title_color=”” extra_class=””][vc_column_text]This is the biggest mistake that most newbies make: they treat this like a fast food restaurant and demand accordingly. It’s incredibly offensive to approach a Dominatrix with a pile of requests and treat them like a fantasy vending machine. Establishing an interpersonal connection with the person you’re seeking to serve is critical, and that starts with a good first impression.

SEND A TRIBUTE FIRST. We are bombarded with emails, texts, and inquiries from people just like you and it becomes noise. Tributes and gifts show a genuine interest and sincerity. Then, introduce yourself thoughtfully (leave out the “40 year old white male” — we don’t care) with some details about who you are and what you’d like to explore in a respectful way.[/vc_column_text][vc_custom_heading text=”Follow her protocols, if they are listed on her site. If you can’t follow basic instructions, it’s not likely you’re a good candidate of any kind, right?” font_container=”tag:p|font_size:24px|text_align:center|color:%2381acd1″ google_fonts=”font_family:Rancho%3Aregular|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” css=”.vc_custom_1615926864642{padding-top: 2px !important;padding-bottom: 8px !important;}”][/vc_column][vc_column width=”1/2″][vc_single_image image=”8249″ img_size=”large” add_caption=”yes” alignment=”center” style=”vc_box_rounded” css=”.vc_custom_1615929276985{border-radius: 1px !important;}”][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_empty_space][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][fwp_borano_title title=”#4: Manage Your Expectations” link=”” tag=”h4″ title_pos=”text-center” absolute_center=”0″ separator=”1″ separator_pos=”separator” separator_m_top=”mt20″ separator_m_bottom=”mb20″ title_color=”” extra_class=””][vc_column_text]Slow down, cowboy. Even if you hit it off right from the start, try to reign in those expectations that it will be fireworks right from the first moment. Building a connection takes time, and that means more than one play experience. Whether that is online or in-person, it will take a few “dates” before we really begin to dig into those creating those exhilarating experiences. Trust and comfort can’t be rushed and both are necessary for even the most skilled Domme. I also don’t invest in clients who don’t invest in me as a person, because I want to keep loving what I do. This is a two-way street and you have to come to the table with more than money. Be willing to participate in the process, because kink is about collaboration. You need to bring your own ideas and suggestions to the table so that you can feed the fires of that chemistry. 

Speaking of money: this is an expensive hobby, there’s no way around it. Seeing a sex worker of any kind is a luxury, and it’s part of the power dynamic. Don’t try and haggle or cajole or beg or plead, it’s not a good look. If you can’t afford my time (or anyone else’s), then save your pennies and plan for the adventure– the same way you would a holiday. Budget for more than one visit or call or interaction, because it’s not likely you’ll get what you want out of just one visit. It’s also ok to try different activities with different people and see what works best for you. Just don’t let yourself fall into the trap of looking for the Cinderella Domme when you’re not investing anything into building a relationship with her.[/vc_column_text][vc_single_image image=”8239″ img_size=”large”][vc_custom_heading text=”Sending tips and tributes is more than just a financial domination activity,
it’s also a show of gratitude and appreciation. Keep that in mind.” font_container=”tag:p|font_size:28px|text_align:center|color:%2381acd1″ google_fonts=”font_family:Rancho%3Aregular|font_style:400%20regular%3A400%3Anormal” css=”.vc_custom_1615924993593{padding-top: 32px !important;padding-bottom: 32px !important;}”][vc_separator border_width=”2″ el_width=”20″][fwp_borano_title title=”#5: Let Go” link=”” tag=”h4″ title_pos=”text-center” absolute_center=”0″ separator=”1″ separator_pos=”separator” separator_m_top=”mt20″ separator_m_bottom=”mb20″ title_color=”” extra_class=””][vc_column_text]If you’ve gotten this far, I’m sure you’ve wrestled with shame and guilt over your fantasies at least a dozen times by now. The puritanical world tells you that your desires are abnormal, that you should feel disgust over them, and this leads to internalized feelings of shame. You need to let that go if you want to have the most fulfilling experiences. That means you need to learn to let go of your ego and need to control outside events as well, not just your shame. Let go of your entitlement and insecurities as mindfully as you’re able.

Arriving into the world of FemDom takes humility and strength to do well, and you can see evidence of this in the happy submissives who are serving those Dommes you revere. How did they get there?

They worked for it.

Not just in actual physical labor, but in the mental and emotional labor as well. Serving a Dominant woman is more than just a fleeting fancy of desire, it can be a transformative experience that brings out the best in you. Surrender to that, not just to the scene.[/vc_column_text][vc_single_image image=”8178″ img_size=”full” alignment=”right”][vc_empty_space][/vc_column][/vc_row]